As we go throughout life, it can sometimes seem mysterious to think how we arrived at our current place.  Each person’s life represents the aggregate total of all their decisions and the influence of chance.  For many of us, it can be tempting to blame ‘fate’ or the actions of other people for the fact that their life has not turned out the way that they had previously imagined it would.  For many people, this has resulted in a slowly burning internal anger against their circumstances.  The enduring problem created by this phenomenon is that it constructs a mental barrier that prevents people from taking the actions that are necessary to improve their circumstances.

The first and most important insight that must precede any sustainable improvement in our life situation is the realization that we are fully responsible for the course of our life, and our decisions are the means by which we navigate the river of chance.  It is most certainly true that we cannot control chance.  There will always be events and circumstances in our life and the world at large that are out of our control.  The secret to influencing your future lies in understanding that there is no point in worrying about things that we cannot control and focusing all of our attention on the decisions and events that we can influence.

One example of how this situation creeps up on people is where you have a person that is living paycheck-to-paycheck and encounters an unexpected automotive repair, medical bill, or some other necessary expense.  With no financial reserves, this person may find themselves forced to go into debt, or possibly default on their financial obligations if they are already in debt.  From this person’s perspective, they have been assaulted by fate and ruined by chance.  However, the situation that placed them at the mercy of chance was completely the result of their decisions.  By modifying their lifestyle, these people could have built-up a savings reserve so that unexpected expenses could be met without destroying their budget.  By consistently living below their means, they could have ensured that their debt limits were not maxed out so that true needs could be met at the critical moment.  By understanding that the future is necessarily uncertain, and planning accordingly, many of the disruptions that cause disasters for other people could have been effectively avoided.

The critical insight here is that our ability to shape our future is dependent on our willingness to embrace a long-term perspective.  By thinking further out than our current wants and needs, we begin to see the benefit of making short-term sacrifices for the purpose of long-term gains.  Thus, by improving our decisions, we make the outcome of our future less dependent on luck.  In this way, making intelligent choices reduces our exposure to chance.  It requires us to discipline our feelings and emotions so that they do not dictate our actions.  It requires us to make conscious decisions that support optimal long-term results.

In the end, our circumstances are determined by both choices and chances.  However, the impact of chances is directly related to the choices that we have made in the past and continue to make into the future.  Each of us must ask whether the choices we are making today prepare us for a more prosperous future.  Each of us must ask whether the decisions and choices we make are the result of our feelings and emotions or if they are conscious and deliberate.  Most of us have a clear vision of what we would like our future to look like, and most of us also know the kind of things that are necessary to attain that vision.  What remains is to develop the discipline so that our decisions turn that vision into reality.